Alright, I’m about to talk about something that I’m sure will upset a few people but it’s something that has been on my mind a lot recently. If you’re easily offended, I suggest you stop reading…. now
Last Saturday I was having coffee with one of my best friends and we got to talking about our lives and what’s been going on (since we last saw each other… about 12 hours before that). The funny thing was though that when we asked each other what’s new, our response was, “oh, I’ve been busy” even though we had both done a whole lot of nothing the night before.
It’s almost become a cultural thing to say “I’ve been busy” when in reality we almost all have free time, it’s just how we choose to see it. For example, I had a roommate once who would spend their free time watching TV and sleeping. I saw this and noticed that on days where they said they had so many tasks to do they wound up sleeping in, taking naps, and watching TV. By the end of the day they would be on the phone talking to someone about their day and their response always was, “I’ve been so busy” and then list off all the tasks they had yet to do as an example of how busy they were / are.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know some people are busy, and I’ve been busy some weeks too, but I believe that we over use the word “busy” to make it sound as though we haven’t spent a few nights watching Netflix and having a glass of wine. I feel as though saying you’ve been busy is something that may sound good, but if we were all honest with ourselves we have free time, it just may look different to everyone. For example, I don’t sleep in. I prefer to wake up early, get a workout in, clean and run my errands, which leaves me with free time in the afternoon or evening. This means that in the evening I don’t have ton to do, so if I don’t have plans, I haven’t been all that busy.
I suppose at the end of the day this post serves no real purpose other than to attempt to understand the fascination behind the phrase “I’ve been busy”. We all have the same number of hours in the day, it just depends how we choose to spend them. I like having time in the evening to cook dinner and hang out with my husband, go to happy hour with my friends, or relax and watch TV so I choose to not lay in bed for hours in the morning and instead get up and get my stuff done so I have free time in the evenings.
What do you think? Is the phrase “I’ve been busy” overused in our society? If you were honest with yourself, do you think you are all that “busy” or do we just spend a lot of time putzing around and call it being busy?