Tonight is the night that the boyfriend and I bring our parents together for the first time…
My dad was able to meet the boyfriend’s parents at the funeral, but my mom was too busy to stop and chat so we arranged tonight as a way for everyone to formally meet. We wanted it to be causal so everyone would be relaxed and at ease so it is taking place at my parent’s house. Everyone is bringing something, so the boy made a salad (dressing from scratch… something he is very proud of), my parents are doing the main course, his parent’s have desert and I will be supplying the wine.
I have to admit it’s a little nerve-wracking because I just want it to go smoothly and for everyone to get along. Now I know on a surface level they all will. They are both great sets of parents with excellent communication skills, and in general they have a lot in common so on that end it should be fine. The only thing I worry about is if the general commonalities are enough for it to be an enjoyable and stress free occasion.
The funny thing about planning this evening is that since the boy and I have been dating for around 3 years everyone is expecting this to be a night where something happens, because apparently the parent’s don’t usually meet until after the two people are engaged. Can’t we just have an evening for the parent’s to meet without having some sort of hidden agenda?
You have no idea how many times I have said, “No, I promise tonight will not be an engagement dinner” or “No Mom, tonight is not a way for us all to gather so that he can propose.”
So that’s what I’ll be dealing with tonight… but I am looking forward to it. It will be nice to get this meet and greet out-of-the-way. It will also be nice to be able to tell my parents about the boy’s parents and have them be able to put a face to a name.
Well, I have to go help my mom get the house “company ready”, but wish me luck!